You have to become a safe place first, before venturing into romantic relationship.
A woman that is living a life of insecurity is going to ruin her relationship with the same hands that she built it with.
When walking into a relationship, be sure you are in that relationship with a man that is a safe place… Someone that is enough with who he is, someone that is not obsessed with you or the relationship. Someone that understands his values, his cost.
Often times we view obsession as love, we view it to mean care when in reality it’s bondage.
When an obsessed man walks into your life, he can destroy other relationships you have built in years.
He can change your life’s routine from the pleasing way it has always been to something unimaginable.
When you are a safe place, your partner feels safe with you.
An unsafe person communicates insults, belittling comments as a way of putting the other person down inorder to feel great about him or herself. He or she does not mind ridiculing his or her partner just to get back at the person or feel great about him or herself.
Being a safe place entitles owing yourself… Understanding your purpose, your vision. Learning the art of emotional management, art of communicating anger and feelings appropriately.
Being content with your existence first, loving your self and not wallowing in the ocean of self pity and gossip.
You have to be a friend with virtue and values first with him/her before discussing romantic relationship.
Thrive to become a SAFE PLACE first.
Build sustainable values