“Men were coming, but all my interest was in my Academics”
HOW WE MET
The first time I met him, was in 2009, at AFO Umuaka, in IMO State. He was returning from a burial with one of my In-laws, I didn’t know him. When, I saw him and first loved the style of his hair cut. Smiles.
I felt this is a nice guy with all potentials I was able to observe that period. I loved his physical attraction, level of comportment and how he carried himself.
OUR FIRST DATE
Our first discussion ever was centered on academics. At the time I met him, I Just finished Secondary School. He wasn’t an intimate friend but later became one in recent time and proposed immediately.
All my interest was in my academics, so there were no boyfriends, so I had no break up, but I had tons of Men coming, people around me were disturbing and pestering me to marry. But I never listened to them, I never attached any emotional feelings to any man then, not even the guy I married today. Though I loved him naturally but I never let him know of that. I wasn’t ready for marriage then, and I stayed away with having any sexual relationship with men or visiting men not even in their houses or hotels.
Some men put all their hope and trust that I would marry them. But trust me I never appointed anybody so that they wouldn’t feel disappointed when I later didn’t marry any of them.
Yes, I had my list of what I wanted in a man, Education was my priority, so I wanted an educated man, followed by height. I said at least since I am average in height, the person will be tall. Another thing is to marry a man with potentials and prospect. I never thought of richness instead, I thought of Love and growing together with the person to attain a greater height.
So, when he invited me around. He proposed, I said yes because I loved him naturally, he loves me too and we are compatible. To the extent we share the same birthday, we have the same blood group and genotype. AA and O+ respectively.
I humbly advice hound unmarried ladies that have decided to settle down, pray over it and keep themselves. Having sexual relationship with a man or visiting him on weekends, sleeping over and doing house chores for him will never attract the guy to you if he is not your husband. Stay away from all these.
Never place money first in your marriage, hence both of you have potentials to grow together and make the money.
Never write full list of qualities you need in a man because you will never see more than 30℅ of it. Instead work on yourself to develop yourself and ensure you have at least 45℅ of the attributes a prospective husband would need in a woman. Trust me the right guy will come for you.
Again attend meaningful events like ceremonies, conferences. Where you will meet meaningful suitors because you must be out before you are seen.
I am Happy I married my heart desire.